Typically we guys don’t want to be too involved with the wedding. We just want to show up, say “I do” and then get back to life as it was before. All the planning, stressing and drama seems best left for the ladies… Sure, you could sit back and watch the woman take the wedding. I mean it’s only the wedding, right? Oh, now she wants to decide where you guys eat every night? That’s strange, she just picked out and set your clothes on the bed in the morning. Whoa, she just convinced you that you don’t need to be hanging out with Phil anymore because she gets a “weird vibe” from him. When did your bride become your mom?
Back the truck up! Take back your balls and RECLAIM that man card! Let’s rewind and give you another chance to make the right decision that will determine a happier route in your future marriage. Take a larger role in the planning and execution of your wedding.
Let’s start with the few traditional basic duties given to grooms for the wedding: get fit for your tux, choosing your groomsmen, choosing the DJ (honestly I think “Disk Jockey” doesn’t fit the name for what they do anymore) and planning the honeymoon.
Beyond those duties, you should really communicate with your fiancé about which duties you think fit your personal strengths. Maybe you’re organized enough to handle sending out invitations to the right people. She should recognize if you love food: you could choose the caterer and creator of your wedding cake. If you’re good with online purchases, you could look for hotel accommodations for out-of-town guests.
Some duties are best made together. Hopefully you both share the same taste in music, decide together what music the DJ or band should play. Money is usually limited, see if you two can come up with a budget that lets her have her magical wedding while at the same time giving your wallet some relief.
If you’re hungering for more duties, then that means that deep within you lies an alpha male; a caveman waiting to burst out and club your bride over the head. Let her lie unconscious so you can take charge of the wedding… She can wake up and see that you kind of made a mess of things. Turns out that you really needed her help too. OK so it turns out that I don’t always give good advice. We have to remember this is her wedding, too.